What is the biggest “key” factor there is when it comes to approaching and attracting beautiful women? Is it looks? Nope. Is it income? No. Is it age? Not even close. The biggest factor there is without a doubt is communication.

It gets a lot crazier then that, however. Communication of course is how we talk to other people, right? But what would you say if I told you that 90% of our day-to-day communication is done in a way where you don’t have to speak at all? That’s right. The majority of what we communicate doesn’t even come from our mouths!

This 90% of communication is called body language. Even when we aren’t talking, we are always sending off these ‘signals’ that other people, women especially, pick up subconsciously. For example, as I am writing this in a coffee shop the waitress can tell I am head-first in my laptop working on something, because of that she knows to keep me refilled and to not disturb me much.

If you see someone walking with their hands in their pockets and their head down, will you be more likely to approach this person? Or would you be more likely to approach a person with their head up and shoulders thrown back? This is my point exactly.

The greatest thing about modifying your body language is that the results are almost instant. From the moment you start using them you start feeling better about yourself and people will be more likely to approach you.

The other great thing about body language is the changes are small and subtle, but they can be tricky to use all the time but through effort and practice you WILL become a natural.

Let’s talk about the 7 body language secrets that I personally use to help me attract women:

1. Movement – Nervous guys are always fidgety and jerky. Confident men who are successful with women make very controlled movements. They walk slowly and only make controlled movements. You will never see a confident man with restless leg syndrome or fidgeting with his fingers. By slowing down your movement you are presenting to the rest of the world a more “comfortable” version of yourself and it makes you that much more approach-friendly.
2. Lean Back and Relax – When you are sitting up or in any sort of position that isn’t standing up, lay back and relax. Let your arms hang down at your sides, and make yourself as comfortable as you possibly can. Shy guys have a tendency of “shielding” themselves from other people by sitting forward with their arms folded. Don’t do this as it makes you look closed off. Relax!
3. Be Spacious – In any situation, always take up as much space as possible. If you’re sitting in a lobby, sort of lean back and kick your legs out. This is a “territorial” thing that all people notice subconsciously. If people see you taking up this space they will automatically assume you to be the alpha in the room and that you are the one who is the most laid back and fun!
4. Walking Posture - When you are walking it’s very important to have great posture. If you walk with your head down with your hands in your pocket you will look completely unapproachable. Walk with your back straight, with your head tilted up just a bit. Stick your chest out and bring your shoulders back. This shows women what they are most attracted too, confidence. Take a look at any millionaire, rock star, or celebrity. They always walk this way and it’s because they are confident with themselves.
5. Open Yourself – When you are approaching women stand or sit with your palms slightly exposed with your arms at your sides and with your legs shoulder width apart (or out in front of you if you are sitting). Don’t ever cross your arms or your legs as this is a signal for being “closed” off.
6. Be Calm and Indifferent – You never want to show too much emotion at any given time, this makes you seem as if you aren’t in control of your life or your situation.
7. Tonality – While this is technically “speaking” it’s more body language then anything else. If you talk fast, slow down! People who talk fast are usually left in the dust because they either A) Talk too fast for people to comprehend or B) Are embarrassing to talk to. Talking slower allows you to be more in control of what you say, it also stops you from making embarrassing mistakes such as stuttering which is a MASSIVE sign of being nervous!

If you can master each one of those body language principles then you will be in a completely different league with women then anyone you know! Another quick-tip to help you master these tips is to associate a color with body language. For example, every time you see something red, check over your body language and see if you are displaying confident and open body language.

If you think "Pick Up Artists" know what they're doing, then be my guest. Just try one time any of their dirty and often times sleazy seduction techniques.

If you never have, then let me spare you the time by telling you that 75% of them would never work and are actually more likely to get you pepper sprayed!

Sure, sometimes you just may get lucky and land that "hot" emotionally unstable and seriously drunk bar floozy.  But then again, you're going to feel like a total jerk and fake, all most like you're acting in some off-Hollywood production.

Now is that girl really the type of girl you want to land? 

Or...

Maybe you want to meet a nice girl and act like yourself doing it. Well if you want to set yourself apart from the sleazy PUA then you just need to keep reading. I'm going to show you 4 great seduction techniques that will make you look like a gentlemen and still get the job done at the end of the day.

The #1 Seduction Technique:
Know how to talk to her...

If you want to start your quest to pick that beauty to your left then you're going to need to know how to talk to her. Now thankfully, talking comes natural to us. But there's nothing more crucial than your first conversation with a woman you have your eye on.

If you don't want to have a boring conversation, you have to quickly know her interests. So what's the best way to find a woman's interests? Well ask questions and more importantly LISTEN!

With a few well placed questions and reasonable listening skills, you can quickly begin understanding what this woman is interested in. Keep the conversation flowing, if you sense she is getting bored of a topic by starting to use smaller answers then ask her something completely off topic.

Just keep asking questions, she'll pick up and ask you some things backs.

Congratulations you just showed her that you enjoy talking to her and interested in what she has to say, you're all ready looking better then most the guys she has seen all week. And listening to what she says is just the cherry on top.

The #2 Seduction Technique
Just the right amount of eye contact

Whether you realize it or not, eye contact can quickly and easily make or break your chances of seducing the woman you're trying to seduce...

Don't try to over think this though as it's really not that complicated. All you have to do is maintain a respectable amount of eye contact. Don't stare at her like you're trying to burn a hole through her head with an imaginary laser. This will generally make her feel like you're staring at something on her face or that you're just a weirdo. Either way, it's not good for your chances at seducing the woman!

You just want to hold eye contact as it shows confidence and interest into what she's saying. Just make sure you glance away every once and a while, you don't want to stare at her the entire time. Just don't look down at her boobs!

Up until this point you've shown you her you like to talk to her, you can listen, you're interested in her and you're not staring at her "assets" every chance you get. In short you're beginning to look better and better. Just make sure you keep up a natural flow.

The #3 Seduction Technique
Finding The Hidden Desires

If you pay attention and have a good conversation going with a woman that sees you as an attractive possibility, she'll begin to throw out little hints here and there. I believe that this is a test or maybe even a tiny little reward for listening and paying attention. It now becomes your job to remember these little clues when she throws them to you.

After a good round of conversation, you'll have a good idea at what makes her tick.

The #4 Seduction Technique
Never Shy From Contact

The most important thing to do when having a good conversation with a woman that seems like she is interested is contact. Physical contact with a woman peppered throughout a good conversation is a sign that you are interested in more than being just a friend to talk to.

If you want to close the deal with this woman you have to touch her. Maybe it's just a touch to her knee maybe her hand. Just make sure you do it in a nice way. Don't be aggressive, unless she says she likes it rough, then by all means...

But back on topic, if you want your seduction techniques to work then you have to close the deal. Make sure you contact her, especially during important times throughout a conversation. Maybe when she says something that bothers her or makes her sad.

So if you want to seduce that gorgeous woman across the bar then you just have to remember what you've learned from this website. Talk to her, maintain natural eye contact, listen to what she says and all ways make sure to remember to physically touch her throughout your conversation. If you do this all correctly and she sees you as attractive you'll probably have a great chance at closing the deal...

Good luck out there.